The Connection Practice is part of the Personal Practice
The Physical Practice, the Ghost Chasing Practice, and the Connection Practice are of equal importance.
Remember that out of the three brains (Reptilian, Limbic, Neocortex) the Limbic system is the one making our Life. Practicing what engages and stimulates this part of the brain will enhance your Life.
Connection is the most important factor in human life.
Brothers in Arms
Back in the 80s, France still had a conscription system, every young man had to spend a year in military training.
I recall having made an interesting observation, which illustrates quite well how strong is the need to connect and belong.
I was in the First Platoon, supposedly the elite of the four platoons of our squadron. Guys in the First Platoon would deem talk to the guys of the Second Platoon but would never be caught dead with a member of the Third.
The Fourth Platoon was just ignored.
But when for some casual reasons two troops from different platoons were together and met someone from another squadron, they would suddenly band together claiming bragging rights for their squadron - We were in the Intelligence Squadron, the others were just mere combat squadrons...
When on liberty downtown, two troops from different squadrons would become Brothers in Arms in front of troops from another Regiment - Soldiers of the Twenty-Seven Alpine do no talk to the sissies of the Fifteen-Nine!.
Of course, that brotherly love would dissolve as soon as they were back to base in their respective platoons!
Separateness is the cause of all suffering
The lack of Connection is also called Separateness.
- Separateness can kill you.
- Separateness will lead you to suicide if your Personal Narrative and Beliefs make you think it is the right thing to do.
- Separateness leads to protest and then to despair
- Separateness leads to the loss of all hopes.
The origin of Separateness
The term infant comes from Latin unable to speak. Infants have limited means of communication and depend heavily on the attention given by the caregivers - in general, the mother. The caregiver has to guess most of the needs of the infant. If there is a strong connection between the two, the needs of the infant will be served just right.
At the beginning of Life, mother and child are one and then separate progressively after birth.
Because the infant is helpless and dependent on the external world to survive, it is in a constant need to be connected to others. The separation should be progressive and accordingly to the level of the growing independence of the child. Unfortunately, this is rarely the case.
That original separation always has its hiccups, and her future ability to bond with others will depend on how the Limbic system of the child has been affected during that period.
Sudden Infant Death Syndrome is linked to the lack of Connection.
— Lewis et al - General Theory of Love.
In extreme cases, the child will die regardless of her health status for no apparent cause. She simply did not connect with Life. Survivors may be autistic or live within the Asperger syndrome spectrum.
But most people end up having trust issues, feeling lonely, misunderstood, awkward, etc. and will manage daily life in some form of reclusion. Being overly extrovert is also a symptom of Limbic unbalance.
But a minority had a harmonious early separation and grew up to be happy and fulfilling beings.
The good news
The good news is that Limbic apprenticeship never stops. The Mind is in constant renewal even if the brain stopped renewing nervous cells in adulthood. So it is possible to reeducate your own Limbic system to be more attuned to the World.
Connection Practice is a quest to be HERE in the NOW.
Remember that animals without the hindrance of an overdeveloped Neocortex do not have the notion of past and future, just Now and not Now. Many cultures like the Hopi Indians live in an everlasting Present. We want to emulate them.
The goal of the Connection Practice is to:
Your Connection with:
- Your Inner Self
- Other People
- The Physical World around you
- God, The Tao, The Universe
Connection Practice is also called Limbic Practice. Connection Practice is often associated with Meditation but actually has an extended arsenal at its disposal.
Although the following suggestions may seem obvious, it does, in fact, require quite some discipline to apply on a regular basis. Find the time, find the courage, find the strength to practice any of the things that will increase your Connection.
There is no too small amount of what you can do
- Meditation can start by 3 minutes or even just one minute
- Gratitude can be just writing down 1, 5 or 10 things to be thankful for
Anything above zero will find its way toward your fulfillment. Don't stay at that level, though, you deserve better.
Some of the actions are actually non-action. Listening requires Non-Talking a.k.a. shutting up. Meditation has for primary principle not doing anything. But it takes Active Will to trigger the non-doing, then one must give up that triggering action and let the non-doing happen. Like a glider plane has to unhook from its towplane to enjoy the ride but needs the towplane to get up there.
Some Practices require a set time and place to be done while others should be embedded in your life and interaction with others.
All the Practices below will engage and stimulate your Limbic system.
For instance, lying is a Neocortex function to bypass the natural honest attitude of the Limbic. So choosing not to lie or make stuff up when given the opportunity would instead bypass the schemes of your Neocortex and let your Limbic express itself. It is like a mini meditation session on the fly.
Don't you feel better when you tell the truth?
Get inspired and start practicing today.